Empowered To Thrive

CHAPTER 2 – SELF-WORTH AND VALUE

Oh yes, you shaped me first inside, then out; you formed me in my mother’s womb. I thank you, High God-you’re breathtaking! Body and soul, I am marvellously made! (Psalm 139:13-14).

Self-Worth: Self-esteem; A feeling that you are a good person who deserves to be treated with respect.

Confidence: A feeling or consciousness of one's powers or of reliance on one's circumstances, for example s/he had perfect confidence in his/ her ability to succeed. (Merriam-Webster).

Self-Esteem and Confidence

When one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others approval. When one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her. (Lao Tzu).

Module 1- Low Self-Esteem

Low self-esteem, lack of confidence and toxic thinking block your TRUE YOU from operating and hinders you from being free to be yourself. Research has shown that functioning outside of your TRUE YOU can limit your intelligence and may even lead to mental health issues. When you are not your TRUE YOU, you will experience frustration, depression, and anxiety. When you know who you are, it sets you free to be yourself and do what you love.

If you lack confidence, or you are bitter and have unforgiveness in your heart, these can also become blockers to your TRUE YOU. They cloud your judgement and give you a distorted view of things, people and situations, and hinders you from progressing in life. They affect the way you think and feel and as a result the choices you make and the actions you take. Unforgiveness is a chord that ties you to the person who hurt you, making you take them with you wherever you go. When you choose to forgive you are literally cutting them and yourself loose to move forward.

Another limiting behaviour that blocks you from operating authentically is imitating others. Imitating someone else, or morphing to fit into someone else’s mould or opinion of who they think you should be, or what you should do, can affect your mental and physical health. Wearing masks that lead to operating outside of your TRUE YOU reduces your ability to face life’s challenges and can lead to emotional trauma.

EXAMPLE: Many years ago I worked for a manager who constantly suppressed and undermined my abilities because of her own insecurities. This led to me experiencing stress, anxiety and various physical ailments. I didn’t realize at the time that it was because I was being hindered from operating in my TRUE YOU. Because I couldn’t be myself, these things began to manifest in my health. I literally lost my ability to think, my level of intelligence diminished and I felt my career dying.

 

Eventually, I moved to another job and the same insecurities began to show in the new manager, who tried to do the same suppression and undermining. This time I spoke my truth and was fired because of it. Insecurity within yourself, or others, is a diabolical spirit that keeps you trapped and inferior if you allow it a place in your life. Not many people will be able to handle the TRUE YOU. Be YOU anyway!

Your life is defined by your associations and attachments. These relationships contribute to the health of your soul. Keeping watch over your relationships will help you to be free in your soul because wrong relationships will always lead you to the wrong place. Being in the wrong environment with people who don’t have the capacity for you will diminish you and your abilities. People can only do to you what you allow them to do. Raise your standards.

Exercise 7

Answer the following questions.

  • Make a list of all your best personal qualities (Write at least 50 things).

  • Do you love yourself? Why, or why not?

  • How can you improve on self-love?

  • Focus on your self-talk. Do you speak to yourself positively or negatively? Make notes each time you notice that you are speaking positively or negatively to yourself.

  • Ask friends and family if they think your self-image is positive or negative.

  • List several ways in which you can add value to yourself.

  • List several ways in which you can add value to others.