Defining Moments

Updated: Dec 2, 2019



(This week's blog is an excerpt from a speech I gave recently at a women's leadership summit).


Anyone who stands in a position of true leadership is angry about something and rebelling against something. Unfortunately, too often we see rebellion or rebelliousness as something negative but that’s only because society taught us to think that way.


Society operates on the level of the Collective Consciousness which can keep you limited and in check. It can keep you unenlightened and restricted because you remain on the same level as every one else. The moment you begin to elevate your thinking, collective consciousness checks you and tells you to stay in your place. Ninety-two percent of the world’s population operates on collective consciousness and you see the evidence in their level of success. You have to renew your mind or learn to think differently on a daily basis to set yourself apart. Only eight percent of people are willing to push their way out of group think to achieve higher levels of greatness.


There will be moments of fear, doubt and anxiety when you resolve to pursue a greater purpose for your life. Each time you overcome them you create a defining moment for yourself. I've had many defining moments in my life. The biggest and probably the most significant was when I lost my job in 2015.

Tin Cup said, “When a defining moment comes along you can do one of two things: Define the moment, or let the moment define you.” I did both!


This was my defining moment so I defined the moment and let it define the new me. I started to embrace who I really was – the me that I liked and respected regardless of what anyone else thought, and the script for my life changed drastically. 


Ralph Waldo Emerson says, “What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”


Leadership is a mindset, an attitude. Leadership begins when you discover the TRUE YOU, know your purpose and destiny, and understand that yours is unique from everyone else’s.


They may be similar to others’, but they cannot be exactly the same because they were designed for the unique you. You fulfill purpose and destiny based on your unique identity, personality and abilities. You are one of a kind therefore no one else can take your place or occupy your space in this world. Only you were designed to do what you do or should do.


Use the difficult moments of your life to define yourself and tap into your leadership potential and let it define your brand.




©2020 by Karlene Millwood International